Megan Greenwell

I write entirely to find out what I'm thinking, what I'm looking at, what I see and what it means. What I want and what I fear.


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went to this lovely city-wide cocktail party the night i returned from two blissful weeks in europe. i can honestly say it feels good to be home.

the most disorienting experience of my life, in 132 characters. 

then i went home and ate an entire bag of tostito’s restaurant-style chips.

That’s always the worst: When you’ve made up your mind about your life and your happiness in it, but something comes around to persuade you otherwise. That’s why Peggy’s been so edgy and agitated this season — she thought she’d gotten past all the “this is what you should do” bullshit. But the lingering presence of Ted, the condescending shuffle of her new boss Lou, the unwanted control of Don, even the ever-presence of Julio, her neighbor who, as Tom and Lorenzo noted last week, is just about the age that Peggy and Pete’s child would be — they’re like a bizarre version of the Greek chorus, constantly reminding Peggy that she made all the wrong choices.

"I’m hoping that one day I can have a professional high and a personal high. I don’t know if that’s ever possible."

WOW.

whoabecca:

"One reporter asked if she would give it all up for love. ‘I’ve never had to,’ said Kidman. ‘I would absolutely. I wouldn’t even think twice about it. I would hope there were other things I could do, and I would find something else to do. I think love is the core emotion. I’ve lived without that and existed without that in my life, and it’s a very empty life. I’ve always said that when I won the Oscar, I went home and I didn’t have that in my life. And that was the most intensely lonely period of my life. And I’ve also said that, strangely for me, the greatest highs have coincided with the greatest lows … It’s always aggravated me that it’s gone that way. I’m hoping that one day I can have a professional high and a personal high. I don’t know if that’s ever possible.’

It was a refreshing moment of honesty from such a huge movie star in such a public forum. Kidman looked around the room and seemed to realize she’d brought the mood down, and trailed off. ‘Sorry to go to that place.’”

via Vulture

yes yes yes yes needed this.

annfriedman:

A friend emailed me this question last night:

I just got my first full-time direct report and realized I’m totally terrified of being a boss! Any advice?

I didn’t realize how much I had to say about this until I started writing. Here’s what I replied:

give clear objectives— “your job is to make sure x happens.” make it known that you are here to help and will happily advise on all matters great and small, but it’s your report’s responsibility to figure out the best process for meeting those objectives. that way she has ownership over her day-to-day. agency is so important! it also gives you, as the boss, clear ways of providing feedback and assessing performance on two levels: outcomes and process.

work harder than your report does. i know this is a duh thing to tell you, because you work hard and are amazing, but people get resentful pretty quickly if they think they’re pulling more weight than the people who manage them. earn your higher salary. also model the behavior you want from her. make clear you have tons of respect for her job—it is critical to what you do, and critical to making an awesome magazine—and that you have infinite faith in her ability to do it well. this isn’t a lie because you hired her and you don’t hire idiots. also, this gives you leverage if she fucks up.

if she fucks up, which even competent people do sometimes, she’ll probably notice before you do and feel bad before you even address it. address it anyway because it shows you’re watching and it’s good to acknowledge together. if you need to, you can frame any reprimand-style conversation in terms of your personal disappointment, because you both know she can do better. also she respects you and wants your respect in turn. then you can turn to her process—which she’s taken responsibility for—and together figure out a way to make it better so the problem doesn’t happen again. people crave feedback, both positive and negative. the most valuable thing is being able to pay attention enough to say, “i’ve noticed you’ve done this little thing six times.” or “i notice that every time [x] happens, you do [y]. i don’t think it’s working.” that shit is invaluable!

never say “she works for me.” always remember that nobody works for you. they work for the job and for themselves and for a million reasons, maaaaybe if you are super awesome you are a tiny reason. but it’s always more accurate to say “we work together.” this sounds dumb but i really believe it matters, not just language-wise but as a thing to keep in mind. [i don’t think you’ll have trouble remembering this. it’s only a revelation to dudes with self-important tendencies.]

help her accomplish the sorts of things that will gain her visibility (which can be really hard for editors, who are so behind-the-scenes) and make for great resume bullet-points. this means projects she can highlight, special coverage areas she can take the lead on, new skills she can boast about. people leave jobs when they don’t feel like they’re evolving anymore. a good boss makes you feel like you’re always adding to your skill set, always growing. she’ll stay in the job longer, which is good because she’s probably super competent by this point. you want her around.

introduce her to smart people you know. and even when she’s not in the room, mention her casually in conversation with smart people you know. give her credit for good work to your bosses (and other colleagues), because if they are good bosses they will realize this is your good work, too. shine theory very much applies to management.

the hardest thing for me was always to walk the line between being transparent and treating my reports as the adults they are, but also insulating them a bit from the management drudgery i had to deal with. so keep her in the loop but remember she’s not your therapist, and she doesn’t get paid enough to deal with management bullshit. that’s your job.

don’t try to be her bff but make clear you care about her as a human. develop an inside joke or two. get tipsy together sometimes. ask about her personal life occasionally but don’t pry. don’t make her feel like she has to lie if she’s taking a day off because she broke up with her girlfriend or is super hungover or something. (the way you do this is you confess to her when you’re working from home because you broke up with someone or are hungover or something.)

she (or he!) will love you forever! you’re gonna be the best boss.

He would choose to play at Fresno State, just like his brother. He would become a devout Christian and marry young, like his brother. By the end of his senior season, he would rack up similar passing numbers and begin to seduce NFL scouts with the same quick release that had sold them on his brother more than a decade earlier. In fact, teams might now consider Derek Carr the top quarterback in this year’s draft, if not for one unshakable liability.

His brother.

This Seth Wickersham story about Derek and David Carr is one of my favorite ESPN the Magazine articles in a while.
I reject this idea that sports media isn’t diverse because people of color and women can’t be found. That’s lazy. Diversity takes work. I get sort of annoyed because some of the sports media companies that complain about the talent pool haven’t done the work to be successful in that area. I see plenty of 20-something white kids being discovered, or being propped up as rising young journalists. I’m going to guess it took some work to find them. That’s how it works with talented people. Unfortunately, in this industry, there’s an established comfort in ignoring us. The real racism is when we aren’t even a part of the thought process, that people have to be reminded to consider women and people of color.
The taxing thing is that every time we meet someone who’s fucking great, we say, “Is this right? Where should I compromise? What should I say to this? Am I doing that old bad thing I do where I ask for what I want and ruin everything again?” The stakes shouldn’t be raised just because someone seems really smart and funny and nice to look at, and you decide you really are interested, and they work really hard to date you. But they do. In theory, you should be able to say, “I’ll know if this is right if he keeps asking me to dinner and listening and treating me like someone he might really love.” You should be able to remain a little detached, until it’s clear that a guy really does care and doesn’t view you as a conquest. But who can do that? It’s stupid to even expect that of yourself, honestly.
POLLY. <3